Staying safe on notadate

Meeting a new friend should feel easy and good. Here's how to keep it that way.

notadate is where adults find real friendships around shared activities — a coffee, a walk, a game night. Most first meetups are exactly what they sound like: two people getting to know each other. A little planning goes a long way toward keeping it that way, so we've gathered some plain, practical tips below, along with a look at the tools we've built into the app to help.

What notadate does on its side

We've built a few things into notadate to help lower risk when you connect and meet up. They're genuine safeguards, but they're not a substitute for your own judgment — here's what each one does, and what it can't do.

Your location stays fuzzy until you both say yes

Your exact location is never shown to anyone. Until you and another person both confirm a meetup, everyone sees only a rough, neighborhood-level area — about 500m across — never your precise spot, home, or workplace. The specific venue is revealed only after you've both agreed to meet.

Photo verification

Profile photos are checked by AI to help confirm that people look like their pictures. It's a useful signal, not a background check — it can't tell you who someone truly is or what they intend.

Content moderation

Messages and content on notadate are monitored by automated moderation that helps catch abuse and harmful behavior early. It's a safety net, not a guarantee that every interaction will be a good one.

Block and report, any time

If someone makes you uncomfortable, you're always in control:

• Block is instant and mutual. A blocked person can't see you, message you, or find you on notadate — and you won't see them.
• Report sends the details to a real person on our team, who reviews every report and takes it seriously.

Adults only

notadate is a community for adults 18 and older.

Child safety standards

notadate is strictly for adults 18 and older — we require date of birth at signup and do not permit minors on the platform. We have zero tolerance for child sexual abuse and exploitation (CSAE). Any content, conduct, or attempt to use notadate to harm a minor results in immediate removal and a permanent ban. We report child sexual abuse material to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) and cooperate with law enforcement.

Every report is reviewed by a real person. You can report any profile, message, or activity directly in the app, or reach our child safety contact at hello@notadate.app.

What these tools can't do

We want to be honest about the limits. These tools help lower risk, but they can't remove it. notadate can't verify anyone's identity, background, or intentions — even with photo verification and content moderation in place — and we're not a party to your meetups. Whether and how you choose to meet someone is ultimately your call, and your own responsibility. The tips below are the most important part.

Before you meet

A little prep makes a first meetup feel a lot more relaxed.

• Meet in a public place. A busy café, park, or venue with other people around is always the right call for a first meetup — never a private home or an isolated spot.
• Tell someone you trust. Let a friend or family member know who you're meeting, where, and when. Share the plan and check in with them afterward.
• Arrange your own way there and back. Drive yourself, or plan your own transport. That way you're never relying on someone you've just met to get home.
• Keep personal details private for now. There's no rush to share your home address, your workplace, or any financial details. Save those for when you genuinely feel comfortable.
• Trust your gut. If a conversation or plan feels off before you've even met, it's completely fine to slow down, suggest a change, or step away.

During the meetup

You've done the prep — now just enjoy getting to know someone new, and keep these in mind.

• Stay in public. Keep the meetup in the public place you planned. If someone pushes to move somewhere private and you'd rather not, trust that instinct.
• Keep your own way home. Hang on to your own transport plan, and don't feel obliged to change it.
• It's always okay to leave. If something doesn't feel right, you can end the meetup at any point — no explanation owed to anyone. Your comfort comes first.
• Keep an eye on your drink and belongings. Simple habit, worth it: don't leave a drink or your things unattended.

After the meetup

• Check back in. Let the person you told know you're home and how it went.
• If anything felt off, act on it. You can block and, if it's warranted, report the person right from the app. You never need a "big" reason to block — feeling uncomfortable is reason enough.
• Share feedback with us. Good or bad, we want to hear how it went. You can reach us any time at hello@notadate.app — it helps us keep the community healthy.

If something feels wrong

You have two direct ways to act, and you can use either at any time:

• Block or report in the app. Blocking is instant and mutual — the person immediately loses all access to you on notadate. Reporting sends the details straight to our team.
• Email us. Reach a real person at hello@notadate.app.

Every report is reviewed by a real member of our team, and we take action where it's warranted. You never owe anyone an explanation for protecting yourself.

In an emergency

If you ever feel you're in immediate danger, don't wait on the app — call 911 (in the US) or your local emergency number right away. Your safety comes first, always.

This page is general guidance to help you make good decisions. It isn't a substitute for emergency services, law enforcement, or professional advice.

A note on meeting people in person

notadate helps adults find each other and plan to meet up, but every meetup happens between independent adults out in the real world. We're not a party to those meetups, we don't supervise them, and — even with the tools above — we can't verify anyone's identity, background, or intentions. When you choose to meet someone you found through notadate, you do so at your own risk and you're responsible for your own safety. That's exactly why the tips on this page matter, and why we always encourage you to meet in public, tell someone you trust, and leave any situation that doesn't feel right.

For the full details, read our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy.