Find your people.
Not a date.

No. That's the whole point. The name says it all -- it's not a date. Notadate is built from the ground up for platonic friendships. No swiping, no romantic undertones, no ambiguity. You're here to find people to do things with, and everyone knows it.

Other apps just moved the swipe from dating to friendships — you're still judging faces. Group meetup platforms can feel overwhelming when you just want to meet one person. Notadate is different: you browse activities first, then connect one-on-one with someone who wants to do the same thing. It's more intentional, less awkward, and built for genuine friendships.

Someone posts an activity -- say, a coffee chat at a local cafe this Saturday. You see it on the map or in your feed, check out the host's profile to get a feel for who they are and what you'd have in common, and express interest with a short message. If the host accepts, you both unlock messaging and nail down the details. Location is revealed when the host confirms the plan.

Safety is built in from the ground up. Profile photos are screened to add accountability -- a safety signal, not a guarantee of identity. Your exact location stays hidden until the host confirms. You can block or report anyone, anytime. And our AI moderation keeps conversations respectful.

The core experience is free and always will be. During beta, all features are unlocked for everyone. After launch, premium features like advanced filters and expanded group sizes will be available through an optional subscription. But finding friends? That's always free.

notadate works anywhere in the US -- every city, from day one. Currently we’re focusing on New York City and Austin, so that's where you'll find the most people to meet, but you can post a plan from anywhere today.

notadate for iPhone is live on the App Store -- free, and you can download it today. Android is still in closed testing, so it's invite-only for the moment; drop your email and I'll add you to the tester list. It works anywhere in the US, though it's early -- if your area looks quiet, that's the part still filling in.

The honest answer: you make friends as an adult the same way you did as a kid -- by doing things together, again and again. What changed is that adult life stopped handing you the built-in reasons to show up. So start with an activity rather than a person: join something you'd genuinely enjoy -- a weekly walk, a coffee chat, a game night -- and let the friendship grow out of the shared thing. Say yes more than feels comfortable, follow up when you click with someone, and give it time. That's the whole formula, and it's exactly what notadate is built around.

Moving somewhere new resets your whole social life at once, which is equal parts exciting and lonely. The fastest way through it is low-pressure, repeatable activities where the same faces keep showing up -- a regular coffee spot, a walking group, a weekly hobby session. Say yes to invitations early, even the ones you're tempted to skip. And lean on proximity: someone a few neighborhoods over is far easier to actually befriend than someone across town. notadate is designed for exactly this -- it surfaces activities and people near you, so you can start building a local circle from day one.

Keep it simple, short, and public. A coffee chat or a walk is perfect for a first meetup -- there's a natural end time, it's easy on the nerves, and conversation flows better when you're doing something instead of staring across a table. Pick a spot you already know, in daylight if you can, and tell a friend where you'll be. Trust your gut: if something feels off, you're always free to keep it brief or head out early. A first meetup isn't a test -- it's just two people seeing whether there's a connection worth building on.

Completely normal -- and far more common than it looks from the outside. Most adults are quietly wondering how to make new friends too; they're just as unsure about who to reach out to first. Awkwardness isn't a sign you're bad at this -- it's just what it feels like to do something that matters before it becomes familiar. It gets easier with reps. Starting around a shared activity takes a lot of the pressure off, because you always have the thing itself to talk about -- which is a big reason notadate puts the activity first instead of the profile.